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Literary Titan 5 Start Gold Book Award for ‘Homecomings: 52 Ways Back to Ourselves’ by Elaine Patterson
Rating: 5 out of 5 ★★★★★
Review
Elaine Patterson’s Homecomings: 52 Ways Back to Ourselves is a thoughtful guide that feels both poetic and practical. The book is a collection of 52 reflective soliloquys, each focusing on themes like stillness, silence, and self. Patterson invites readers to pause, reflect, and reconnect with their true selves. With each chapter paired with journaling prompts and reflective exercises called “Songlines,” it’s a gentle call to return home, not to a physical space, but to one’s inner being.
What I loved most about Homecomings is its tone. It’s intimate yet universal. Take the chapter on “Solitude.” Patterson reminds us that solitude isn’t about isolation but about befriending ourselves: “When we sit in solitude, we can hear our hearts beat, hear our breath and hear ourselves think without censorship.” I’ve always struggled with quiet moments, but this chapter nudged me to see solitude as an ally instead of a threat.
Patterson also excels in making wisdom accessible. In “Start,” she discusses how beginnings are hard because they push us beyond our comfort zones. I nodded along when she said, “Jumping too soon might mean we have not done the work before the work.” It hit close to home. I’m a chronic procrastinator. Her reminder that hibernation and germination are necessary steps toward growth gave me permission to slow down and trust the process.
In “Shame,” Patterson tackles the difference between guilt and shame, sharing how shame can trap us in feelings of unworthiness. “Shame immobilizes us,” she writes, while guilt can be a springboard for constructive action. It’s the kind of raw truth that feels like it’s spoken by a wise friend who’s been there, too. I found myself reflecting on my own shame scripts and the freedom of reframing those stories.
Homecomings is a beautiful blend of poetry, self-reflection, and gentle wisdom. It’s not a book you rush through; it’s one you savor, page by page. This book would be perfect for anyone feeling disconnected, overwhelmed, or craving moments of stillness in their lives. It’s for the seekers—the people who want to come home to themselves and need a guide along the way.
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Patterson’s book combines spiritual thought with self-help practices.
This guide’s three sections refer to aspects of a long journey: “Route Mapping,” “Footprints,” and “Rest and Return.” Within these segments are 52 soliloquies starting with the letter S (an idea inspired by Patterson’s free-writing practice). Each soliloquy is prefaced with an apt quotation before moving onto its subject and ends with “Songlines” suggesting practices for readers to do themselves. In the category of “Soul,” for example, readers are advised to find labyrinths (“walking, writing, or tracing meditations”) to walk through, and, before entering them, to “set the intention of befriending your soul.” For “Soften,” she suggests mentally scanning one’s body to notice specific places where tension resides. Patterson also offers journal prompts for each topic; “Seasons” suggests that readers write about their relationship with nature, and “Savour” instructs one to sketch a drawing of a cupboard filled with favorite things. The author ranges widely for inspiration. One section touches on lovely Zulu greetings, the Buddhist story of Indra’s net, and the poet John Donne’s work to illustrate the theme of interconnection. Quotes by figures such as 13th-century poet Rumi, acclaimed actor Lupita Nyong’o, architect Frank Lloyd Wright, and martial artist and actor Bruce Lee are found throughout. Patterson’s book is also attractively laid out, with chapter titles in flowy script and pictures of vintage postage stamps. Though carefully planned, the text may be effectively enjoyed by flipping through pages randomly or by reading the chapters in order. Some insights, such as that life is like sewing a patchwork quilt, or repairs of broken pottery make it stronger and more beautiful are familiar but still radiate a welcome sense of comfort and ease. Readers can happily amble through her book “occasionally pausing to admire the sights.”
A gentle and warmhearted life manual.
Kirkus Reviews
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BOOK REVIEW
Reviewed by Asher Syed for Readers' Favorite
Homecomings: 52 Ways Back to Ourselves by Elaine Patterson is an interactive collection meant to guide readers on a journey of self-discovery through reflections and prompts, elevating joy, compassion, and wisdom. In Senses, Patterson talks about how sensory awareness deepens presence and creativity, and champions activities like observing nature and journaling sensory experiences to enhance intuition. In Serendipity, Patterson describes the role of curiosity and intuition in allowing meaningful, unexpected events to emerge. She contrasts rigid rationalism with an openness that is transformative through playful engagement. In Strength as Courage, Patterson redefines strength as the ability to embrace vulnerability and adaptability rather than mere endurance. Drawing on the Buddhist principle of equanimity, she speaks on resilience through acceptance, balance, and awareness. Across all, Patterson provides practical exercises to cultivate mindfulness, creativity, and inner strength in daily life.
Elaine Patterson’s Homecomings: 52 Ways Back to Ourselves is a beautifully written and wonderful guide designed to help readers reconnect with themselves. Given the number of entries, it works very well as a weekly practice, similar to a devotional, but its personal nature makes it easy to move at one’s own pace, whether lingering on a topic or moving along at a brisker pace. Patterson shares much of her own experience and that makes the work feel relatable and comforting. I think when you have that, even if you don't know the author, you feel like you do and it creates a safe space, and trust. The most impactful section for me was Silliness, where Patterson discusses how societal expectations suppress playfulness and creativity. Her acknowledgment of perfectionism as a barrier to joy was what I needed to hear in that moment, reinforcing the importance of laughter and spontaneity. With its gentle, encouraging tone and thoughtful entries, this book is a great addition to the nightstand. Very highly recommended.
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A Gentle and Wise Companion for Self-Discovery
Your book Homecomings: 52 Ways Back to Ourselves feels like a compassionate companion one that gently guides readers toward reconnection, balance, and authenticity. The structure works beautifully, offering just enough depth in each entry to invite reflection without overwhelm, and I especially loved how you wove mindfulness and playfulness together.
Your section on Silliness struck a deep chord with me the way you described how perfectionism dampens creativity and joy was profoundly liberating. I also appreciated how you reframed strength through vulnerability and equanimity; it felt both grounding and uplifting.
Your writing carries warmth, humility, and quiet wisdom, creating that rare sense of trust and intimacy between author and reader.
There’s such generosity in your writing ~ it feels as though you’re not only sharing what you’ve learned, but also gently reminding the reader that they already know, deep down, how to come home to themselves. It’s a rare and beautiful thing.
From Nina Stibbe Author of ‘Reasons to be Cheerful’, ‘Love, Nina’, ’An Almost Perfect Christmas’, ‘Man at the Helm, ‘Went to London, Took the Dog’ and ‘Paradise Lost’
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I just finished reading Homecomings: 52 Ways Back to Ourselves, and I was so touched by the beauty, wisdom, and gentle guidance that fills every page. Your work feels like a heartfelt invitation to slow down, listen inwardly, and rediscover the parts of ourselves we too often overlook. The way you blend reflection with practice, from Senses to Strength as Courage, creates a rhythm of mindfulness and renewal that feels both grounding and uplifting.
What really resonated with me was your emphasis on presence and playfulness. In a world that often prizes productivity over joy, your reminder in Silliness that laughter and creativity are essential parts of being whole felt like a gift. Each section feels like sitting down with a trusted guide who’s walked this path and is now sharing its light with others.
Homecomings so beautifully combines self-reflection, creativity, and mindful living, and would attract readers who are drawn to journaling, personal growth, and mindful awareness.
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Lyanna Rosewell
A Gentle and Wise Companion for Self-Discovery
Your book’s gentle wisdom and interactive approach to self-discovery beautifully guides readers toward presence, compassion, and authenticity. Homecomings isn’t just a book it’s an experience that invites people to slow down, listen, and reconnect with themselves, which aligns perfectly with what our readers value most.
Many of our readers, especially businesswomen and businessmen, found your work deeply insightful and appreciated its thoughtful approach to leadership, creativity, and reflective practice. It truly resonated with professionals seeking more mindful and authentic ways to lead and grow.
Brisbane Social Geek Book Club
Trent Stephens
A Wonder-filled Delightful Book providing Inner Life with Wisdom and Wellbeing
"Homecomings is such a wonderful book.
Elaine Patterson invites me to engage with exactly what I need to begin my day in reflection. It is really insightful in helping me journal and explore what it is through single words and themes to be at home to myself and to belong in our sometimes very changeable world.
Over the next few weeks as I explore new places on a holiday I hope to continue to reflect on the core attributes who help me to be me - joy, courage, solitude and shadow (are examples) . I like this very much as it is reflection made possible through the careful selection of word choice with Elaine’s own thoughts to stimulate your own. Each word is a guide to a path to what I hope will be a great sense of my own sense of homecoming. Throughout is woven a sense of lightness, playfulness and creativity.
It has given me a moment on days to breathe, to listen, to feel, to trust in myself, to be playful and to discover my own wisdom, wonder and wellbeing. I would recommend this to anyone who is seeking a new voice to discover holistic reflection in their live. Thank-you Elaine”
Jennie Fytche
Executive Coach and People Developer, UK
52 Invitations to the Soul
"This book is the perfect size to be able to take it with you every day. I keep it in my car along with a notebook so I can be inspired before I get out for my park walk. Nourish yourself by flipping open to any page and connect with the words there to stimulate thinking, feeling, writing, or merely to be surprised.
I have used the book and the marvellous cards that Elaine has created to accompany this book (see author for details) with clients as a creative coaching method and it works beautifully. This is superb resource for the journal writer, as a stimulus for mediating on a theme or to share with friends over coffee about the stories the words evoke. All the entries in their own way invite us home to ourselves, from a busy life we can find a sanctuary of calm and reenergising inspiration. A must and a brilliant Christmas gift."
Karyn Prentice
Fletcher Prentice Associates
Feed Your Creativity!
"At the beginning of Homecomings are some notes suggesting how to read it..i.e. to dip into or browse its sections, etc. However, once I started I simply couldn’t put it down!
It is a finely crafted work of “invitations’ to venture into a more creative world, wonderfully accessible, and demonstrating a vast knowledge of approaches to the “human condition”
Far from being a dry “workbook”, it is offers exercises for reflection and imagining by covering a range of subjects which we all have thought about / come across / experienced at some time in our lives.
It’s very thoughtfully written, beautifully crafted and spans a breadth of fields including philosophy, psychology, the creative arts, nature writing , human interaction, reflection , meditation and many more.
I thoroughly recommend it to anyone wanting to enrich their lives by feeding a creativity we all have inside of ourselves."
Dr Steve Allen
Finding Solace on your Journey
“Homecomings is such a wonderful book that invites readers to reconnect with themselves through 52 reflective prompts. It’s like a strong embrace and warm conversation about belonging, joy, and compassion. It is deeply comforting.
The writing encourages introspection and creativity, serving as a gentle guide for meditation and self-reflection. It’s a beautiful reminder that taking time to explore our inner worlds is essential.
It’s perfect for anyone looking to rediscover themselves and find solace in their journey. Highly recommended!”
Georgina S
What a Gift!
"I wanted to let you know that I received your book and wow, is it beautiful! It's just gorgeous.
I have only cracked it open and read a bit, but I am very much looking forward to a deeper exploration. I so love all of the S's! How amazing that you found so many that really fit/work.
And it's beautiful to see my poem at the beginning of your work of art. What an honor. Thank you so much for sending me a copy. And another big congratulations to you for this huge accomplishment. How lucky are all of those who get to be on the receiving end of this beautiful gift. "
Julia Fehrenbacher
Poet | Teacher | Life Coach, USA
What a Treat!
"I just returned from a short time 'away from the desk' and received your wonderful book - thank you!
What a treat! It's a lovely size and design and flicking through, I'm very much looking forward to reading it. How wonderful to experience your ideas in this way."
Rob Lawrence
Podcast Producer, Content and Audio Strategist to Leaders, Coaches and Mentors for the Association of Coaching, UK
Patterson’s book combines spiritual thought with self-help practices.
This guide’s three sections refer to aspects of a long journey: “Route Mapping,” “Footprints,” and “Rest and Return.” Within these segments are 52 soliloquies starting with the letter S (an idea inspired by Patterson’s free-writing practice). Each soliloquy is prefaced with an apt quotation before moving onto its subject and ends with “Songlines” suggesting practices for readers to do themselves. In the category of “Soul,” for example, readers are advised to find labyrinths (“walking, writing, or tracing meditations”) to walk through, and, before entering them, to “set the intention of befriending your soul.” For “Soften,” she suggests mentally scanning one’s body to notice specific places where tension resides. Patterson also offers journal prompts for each topic; “Seasons” suggests that readers write about their relationship with nature, and “Savour” instructs one to sketch a drawing of a cupboard filled with favorite things. The author ranges widely for inspiration. One section touches on lovely Zulu greetings, the Buddhist story of Indra’s net, and the poet John Donne’s work to illustrate the theme of interconnection. Quotes by figures such as 13th-century poet Rumi, acclaimed actor Lupita Nyong’o, architect Frank Lloyd Wright, and martial artist and actor Bruce Lee are found throughout. Patterson’s book is also attractively laid out, with chapter titles in flowy script and pictures of vintage postage stamps. Though carefully planned, the text may be effectively enjoyed by flipping through pages randomly or by reading the chapters in order. Some insights, such as that life is like sewing a patchwork quilt, or repairs of broken pottery make it stronger and more beautiful are familiar but still radiate a welcome sense of comfort and ease. Readers can happily amble through her book “occasionally pausing to admire the sights.”
A gentle and warmhearted life manual.
Kirkus Reviews
Testimonials for Reflect to Create! The Dance of Reflection for Creative Leadership, Professional Practice and Supervision
REVIEW ON AMAZON
GROUNDED AND INSPIRATIONAL
As Elaine Patterson explains in her excellent book's Preface, one key strand in the rationale for her writing Reflect to Create ! is the VUCA world as defined by Bob Johanssen- volatility, uncertainty, complexity and ambiguity. With this in mind, Elaine Patterson offers, I believe, CARE. That is, comprehensiveness, accessibility, relevance and engagement.
- COMPREHENSIVENESS: a wide range of approaches, activities and ideas elegantly blended, yet also stand-alone.
- ACCESSIBILITY : the material is easily understood, which makes the associated delights and challenges particularly vivid.
- RELEVANCE : the approaches, activities and ideas are arguably vital in these times of increasing turbulence.
- ENGAGEMENT : the book invites the reader to be both wise and naive. That is, to draw on the wealth of her/ his experience regardless of age, experience or culture. At the same time the reader is asked, I suggest, also to look at himself/ herself and the world through fresh eyes, being open to new possibilities.
This book is of great value whether one is seeking self-help material and inspiration or one is a ' professional helper' - coach, counsellor, therapist, supervisor - and focussed on supporting others . Ultimately reflection is both an intensely personal and crucially collective activity. This book imaginatively offers these possibilities, that is, ways of reaching out to oneself and others in the dance of life.
Keri Philips Coach and Coaching Supervisor
Congratulations! I received your gorgeous book on Saturday from my local sorting office as I have been away with work. It is stunning and so packed with content. I cannot wait to dive in.
So wonderful to have your vision and dream in my hand and have witnessed the journey of your book's unfoldment. Have fun spreading your book throughout the world.
Enjoy.
Jackee Holder
Your book has arrived and we are just so impressed and awed by your achievement - really can’t begin to tell you…..! Its a big book! - in so many ways - its scope is vast and the depth of the practices and the quotations and poetry you include are, well, immeasurable I suppose in the potential treasures they could reveal. Just massive congratulations Elaine - its a treasure trove of wisdom and loving guidance.
Jane Pelton
REVIEW ON AMAZON
A Substantial Work Badly Needed in our Present Circumstances for All our Sakes
As a professional who has never worked in this field, I am aware that I am poorly qualified to judge this book, but since retirement has allowed time for long overdue reflection and creativity, there is a lot here that I recognise and can respond to. The author displays both detailed scholarly research and an intense emotional and spiritual awareness that are rarely combined. It is a comprehensive manual of ideas and practical exercises drawn from a vast range of disciplines ranging effortlessly through meditation, Buddhism, poetry, shamanism, neuroscience and modern psychology - all aimed at improving the person studying it.
The book provides a concise, accurate summary of numerous well established practices and an introduction to many that are novel to me. A reader feeling overwhelmed by the scale is recommended to select a topic that resonates and try it out; I found no. 98 intriguing. The didactic sections are enriched and enlivened by poetry in quotation or in full and a wealth of quotations from thinkers, leaders, philosophers and scientists ancient and modern.
Thoroughly and copiously referenced, it will make an ideal text book for anybody working in coaching etc. As a work of reference it would suit any good library. In our ongoing crisis of political paralysis and dissolution, I feel our leaders would benefit from learning even a tiny fraction of the insights presented here on reflection and creativity: it could transform our barren void into a " Fertile Void" (page 147).
Chris P
REVIEW ON AMAZON
Poetic, Practical and Inspirational
So much good stuff here - highly recommended. A real treasure chest of reflective opportunities.
MS
REVIEW ON AMAZON
Find Your Freedom
This is one incredible book – really beautifully designed, with clear sections, quotes, poetry and exercises, it offers a journey on a path less trodden, one that promises fulfilment, joy and creativity. Who of us in this busy world has time to reflect, really? The answer is, all of us – no matter what we are doing – because if we don't, we miss out on the opportunity to learn, evolve and create the life we were meant to lead. If we don't gift ourselves time to reflect and be creative, then we could remain on the treadmill of 'ought, must, and can't' for ever.
This is a book to delve into – just open a page and be inspired. You can read it from start to finish, rigorously undertaking all the exercises and meditations that are outlined, or like me, you can dip in on a daily basis and be guided on that day. For example, today I opened the book randomly on 'An Exercise in Self-Appreciation'. I am asked to think about 10 things I really like and appreciate about myself. This is harder than it appears as I am prone to self-deprecation to the point of sabotage! But when I really think about it, I start to recognise that there are aspects of my Self that I like, but that I'm ignoring because I prioritise other people's needs above my own. The reflection starts and goes deep, and ends in my intention to give myself time and space to write poetry and linger in nature rather than rush back to the office...
Don't be put-off by the sub-title: you don't have to be a leader, a professional in practice or under any kind of coaching or supervision to enjoy this book. It is a book to sit with you for a lifetime, to refer to and relish whenever you feel in need of some inspiration.
I've just seen this beautiful poem by Wendell Berry in it, under the section, Finding Freedom. I think it says it all:
'And the world cannot be discovered by a journey of miles,
no matter how long,
but only by a spiritual journey,
a journey of one inch,
very ardous and humbling and joyful,
by which we arrive at the ground at our feet,
and learn to be at home.
Lou Lou Foxes
REVIEW ON AMAZON
A beautiful library of resources in one place
What I loved about this book, besides its beautiful feel as a book to handle and look through and keep discovering, was the fact I could have at my fingertips such a huge variety of approaches, methods and techniques for different ways to go deeper and wider with an inquiry that I might have and that I could use in work with my clients as issues arise. It is so comprehensive that I have the whole book decorated with post-it notes! Also sitting behind the resources themselves is the delicious dance map of the four movements . Why this is helpful is that it reminds me first I have to prepare myself, the dancer, the experimenter, the 'chercheuse' so that I can suspend old thinking in order to craft more wisely. I love that it gives me a mindful way to come home to myself before I start the work and as well as finding new ways to explore the music of my thinking.
Karyn Prentice
REVIEW ON AMAZON Brazil
5 Stars
I had the opportunity to learn some valuable concepts and practices from this fabulous book, written with mastery by Elaine Patterson. Incredible synchronicity was generated in participants by the practice of the 4 Listening Fields (page 98) at a recent conference. What Elaine Patterson presents in this book is absolutely enchanting and proposed in a lively and original way. I super recommend it!
Clenir Streit, Leadership Development, Coach MCC, Certified Mentor Coach (CMC) and Accredited Coaching Supervisor (ACS)
REVIEW ON AMAZON
Important and Creative Book in the Field of Reflective Practice
After reading this inspiring book I came away with creative ideas on how to delve deeper into different ways of ‘being’. As a Reflective Practitioner supporting leaders in turbulent times this book is a valuable resource and essential reading. Elaine is an expert in her field and this is clearly shown in the innovative way she has presented the exercises, insights and background research. I love the blend of practical systems thinking with creativity and metaphorical exploration. Highly recommended.
Jackie Arnold
REVIEW ON AMAZON
Un livre que j’aurais aimé écrire.
Ce livre propose un cheminement de l'être au travers de ses différentes aspirations.Très bien structuré (et beau) si vous cherchez des exercices pour approfondir et élargir votre pratique reflexive, ou le faire avec un groupe, il est très complet. Je recommande.
Title : A book I would have loved to write
This book offers a pathway to wellbeing through its various objectives. Very well structured (and beautifully presented) if you are looking for exercises to deepen and grow your reflective practice, or to do in a group, it is really thorough. I recommend it.
Jean-Francois Thieret
Mastermind Business Academy, France
REVIEW ON AMAZON
A treasure trove for self care, exploration and enhancement, with golden nuggets for coaching, leadership and life, accessible in any moment, brief or bountiful.
I recommend flicking open on a random page and undertaking the exercise which most speaks to you. Do this a few times, then take it from the top to understand how the author intends to offer these most generous gifts to maximise connection, compassion, courage and care. Enjoy, with all your heart.
Lauren Gable
It is beautifully written, researched and crafted – I hope you are duly proud, a truly great book to birth into the world!
Giles Hutchins, Advisor and Speaker at Transforming Leaders and Regenerative Leaders
Reflect to Create is one of my go to’s – both for myself and to access exercises for my clients
Reflect to Create has been a wonderful resource for me as a supervisor, both for my own reflective practice and as a ready resource of exercises and practices to use with my clients. I use Reflect to Create in two ways – when I have a specific need for a particular practice for either myself or my client I find that the layout makes it easy to find. I also find that sometimes I just open the book at a random page and explore what is there.
Barbara Udall, Australia
Beautiful and creative text, like a work of art
This book is written for the practitioner, and while it deals comprehensively with the latest theories and models, the overall design of the book is aesthetically pleasing and stimulating, making it a colorful read. The coaching/supervision texts I have read so far have been very in-depth, with comprehensive descriptions of the theoretical background and practical models. However, because they were black and white and logical, many of them were less intuitive and less inspiring experientially. This book is very practical and acts as a kind of supervisor for the practitioner, as the practitioner always has it at hand and can refer to it where necessary. The structure of the book incorporates the metaphor of a dance progression and provides a clear guide to the mindset and practice of each phase of coaching and supervision. It is a challenging book that seeks to give an experiential understanding of learning from books on coaching and supervision that goes beyond the existing framework.
Wataru Kurimoto
REVIEW ON AMAZON
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 12 March 2020
Where does one begin with such an excellent body of work all in one place? Reflect To Create is Elaine‘s thought leadership on the dance of reflection for creative leadership. It’s teaching applies not just to the world of coaching and supervision but across professional practice in a range of disciplines. The book is beautiful to look at thereby very inviting for the reader to engage with. This could be years of CPD all in one space. The chapters are clearly titled and invitational. It is abundant with stories and narratives that will enriched any training or programme where you want to bring reflective practice alive. It feels like a labour of love. Elaine has a good use of colour throughout the book which is subtle and original. The author had been very generous with the wealth of materials and content shared in the book. It is very well researched and demonstrates the breadth of creative expansion in the exploration of creative reflective practice. Highly recommend book as a go to book on reflective practice.
I want to take a moment to appreciate your work in this book. I have benefited from its depth, simplicity and invitation - read it through and now doing random exercises! Thank you for this gift.
Take a moment to appreciate this book. I have benefited from its depth, simplicity and invitation - doing random exercises that feel timeless and purposeful! Elaine, thank you for this gift.
Brian Duggan Executive Coaching, Halifax, Canada
Elaine brings the essence of creativity to spaces where they have classically become devoid of such richness. Executives, leaders, managers, coaches and mentors will all benefit from the multi-faceted book of almost 200 activities to encourage, believe in and draw out your inner resources to uplift and help face you out to the tasks at hand in your life, and the call to be your true self. The book has helpful theoretical philosophical, spiritual, psychotherapeutic, psychological and practical approaches to engage you in whatever way works for you and your clients. I use this book for my own reflective practise, as well as a resource book for ideas with clients and supervisees. It is a book to acknowledge the whole of your being and to bring joyful and thoughtful answers in new and innovative ways.
Alison Cansdale
I have ordered your book ' Reflect to Create' which is fantastic, and I am looking forward to working my way through it. I know it is a bit of a strange thing to say about a book, but the book feels so generous, and I love the inspirational quotes as they speak to my heart. 
Wishing you all the best,
Elizabeth Reilly
Elaine Patterson's Reflect to Create! What a gift to the world and to me this book is! It has provided a way to continue to immerse myself in the topics I learned at CSA and has given me a wealth of activities to share with my supervisees. Elaine brought to life to me the importance of reflection in supervision for both me and my clients. She does this by giving me ideas about what to reflect on.
Theodore Fitzsimmons, CSA Graduate
REVIEW ON AMAZON
A must-have toolkit for every leadership journey
I love new tools and toolkits so I bought this book knowing I can always use support in my leadership journey. In recent years, I've embraced the practice of reflection. At times, I get stuck with knowing how to frame what I am digging for in my subconscious. This is the perfect book for that.
Last year, I was feeling lost in a big decision I needed to make. I chose 5 exercises to guide me through a month of exploration. It was like having Elaine on my shoulder along the way. The exercises were clear and easy to apply. They provided a wonderful structure for my reflection and a lot of freedom. I finally made the decision and haven't regretted my choice and I attribute that to the deep thinking I was afforded with support of this book.
Using the Theory U frame, the book offers up a wide range of exercises and tools from the simple to what some might feel is more unusual. Whether you are new to reflection, or an experienced practitioner, this book will be a wonderful companion on your journey.
Catmindu
J R Fytche
Mr. D. P. Carter
Dorothy
Karyn Fletcher
L. Ward-Cleaveley
Elaine beautifully combines her deep wisdom of people and creativity.
Her book is full of gentle exercises, poetry and references to help you explore and energise your creativity.
A real joy!
Testimonials - Working With Elaine
“Elaine Patterson is a first class Executive Coach and Coach Supervisor who demonstrates in both her attitude and her practice the highest standards of Executive Coaching. She has a big impact on her clients and works successfully across the full range of coaching situations and contexts. Her insightfulness and humanity are well balanced by excellent training and dedication to her Continuing Professional Development.’
Edna Murdoch: Co-Founder and Director Coaching Supervision Academy
“I have no hesitation in using the superlative “excellent” in respect of her work. She is thoughtful, perceptive and can be equally supportive and challenging of her clients as required. She is also clearly intelligent and uses creative and innovative approaches to issues presented. She brings the highest level of commitment and professionalism to her work”.
Mike White: Senior Partner Working With People
“I would recommend Elaine to anyone in search of an Executive Coach. Whilst allowing me always to set the agenda and pace at our meetings, she is nonetheless rigorous in bringing me back to my strengths and development needs, enabling me to take charge of my on-going development, and to identify for myself successful work-related strategies and solutions. I leave meetings with Elaine feeling positive, empowered, and energised”
Althea Efunshile: Executive Director at Arts Council England
“Elaine has an authentic illuminating energy which rubs off on others – a fine balance between having an appreciated positive approach while equally holding her clients to account to reach their greatest performance levels. She is a true professional, who takes her own development seriously, continually striving for the highest standards both personally and professionally.”
Katherine Tulpa: Chief Executive, Association of Coaching
“Yes, thank you Elaine for your flexibility and belief in me to achieve my potential. You are almost telepathic in the way that you know what I am thinking. I respect your intuition, empathetic and direct style of coaching and found myself totally trusting your approach. Some great coaching moments that truly inspired and motivated me.”
BAA HR Business Partner
“Elaine helped me to release the potential in me to achieve my deep dreams and to make them real. Any time I have spoken with her I have gained in self-confidence and I have become stronger. Her style and her approach has determined my signature presence and my style of coaching”.
OD Consultant, Budapest
“Elaine is a highly experienced supervisor with a light touch. Her relational presence is supportive, her insights and observations useful and informative. Our supervision relationship guided me through periods of intense personal change and nurtured me through some challenging times”
Liz Nottingham, HR Director in Social Media EMEA at R/GA
“I started my supervision with Elaine curious about how to create the space for transformational learning to take place and she has shown me that in abundance. At key moments Elaine was there with tenderness and guidance. We played with metaphors together creating images of myself working authentically as a reflective practitioner. Elaine listened to what my heart was saying I needed and played it back to me so I would take notice and respond. Her acceptance without judgement provided me with the safety to explore and celebrate with joy who I am and how I practice”
Frances Mathews Executive Coach, Q-Learning Ltd
Testimonials from Weekend Retreats
“The Fall Retreat was a magical experience. I highly recommend it. Under Karyn’s and Elaine’s sensitive facilitation, all of us were invited to enter at whatever level we needed. The retreat offers a light touch with varied activities that speak to different parts of ourselves, and our different styles. It’s a time to both disconnect and reconnect. It is enhanced by beautiful accommodation, nature’s healing touch, sumptuous meals, and participants who have respect for each other’s space. I came needing time to reflect, re-energize, and refresh myself since so much of my time is focusing on others. This was time and space just for me. I left feeling lighter and clearer; at peace and content in spirit and soul. This is an investment in myself that I would do again with no hesitation. Thank you Karyn and Elaine for the opportunity”.
Lynne De Lay, USA from One World Leaders
'I struggle to articulate the pleasure and energising impact of my experience on the Autumn Equinox Retreat. Such care and creativity went into its design and execution. In a varied and gentle way it took me to a deep, revealing and comforting place. The venue and environment defy description for their beauty, peacefulness and sumptuous luxury encapsulating a spiritual and energetic harmony that lifts the heart and soul.'
Jane Emmanuel from Jane Emmanuel Ltd Coaching | Leadership | Facilitation
“The Spring Sacred Space Retreat at Tofte Manor facilitated by Elaine Patterson and Karyn Prentice was a truly inspirational event. Their light touch facilitation and amazing empathy enabled me to arrive into the space and make the most of their practices over the 48 hours we were together. They are truly gentle guides. They enabled the community to engage and come together with ease within the beautiful, inspirational surroundings of Tofte Manor supported by the hospitality team led by Kate who kept us sustained with beautiful vegetarian fare. The laughter around the dining table was as vital to the process as walking the Labyrinth”
Caroline J Lambert
Development Consultant
'Developing People , Developing Organisations
“The elegant manor, steeped in time, nourished and settled me. The fields, gardens, tree elders, and sculptures called to me. The labyrinth unburdened and lifted me. I played and shared with the other participants, speaking less of work and more of life. And over it all Elaine, Karyn and Jo directed the retreat with skill and permeated my experience with love”.
Elizabeth Fowler MD LLC
Spiritual Direction
Leadership & Life Coaching
“Please allow me to recommend this lovely retreat.
Karyn and Elaine are masters of creation – in orchestrating a profound and magical setting and process.
I came in need of refreshing and depart sated in body and soul. Allow yourself this retreat.
Your heart will thank you. And I thank Karyn and Elaine and Tofte Manor.
Adrienne McDunn
USA
“The retreat was an absolute joy to be part of. It was skillfully planned and expertly facilitated in a way that seemed effortless (but I am sure it wasn’t!). There was plenty to do or not do as you so wished. The group, the individuals and the energy were allowed to naturally flow. The venue was superb. I felt hugely rejuvenated and think that I achieved very significant personal results in a short space of time: changes that are lasting. I would attend again. Go in with an open mind and heart, be ready to deeply relax and yet challenge yourself, wake up the right brain and BREATHE”
Viv Chitty, Director of Viv Chitty Associates, Executive Coach and Coach Supervisor.
“The Autumn retreat at Tofte Manor was a rare-treat. The spirit of it echoed harmoniously with the magic of the place and created a wonderful space in which to attend to our bodies, minds and souls and harvest.”
“L’esprit de cette retraite automnale a trouvé un écho harmonieux dans la magie de Tofte Manor et a créé un précieux espace de récolte saisonnière pour nos corps, esprits et âmes.”
Edith Coron. Paris- Beijing
Global Leadership Coach (PCC-ICF) and Coach Supervisor
“This was my second Autumn Equinox Retreat at Tofte Manor with Elaine and Karyn. During these two days I filled my harvesting basket to the brim and left with a deep sense of serene plenitude. The fruit of my labyrinth walk in 2016 had nourished me throughout the yeay and this Autumn’s Labyrinth walk has given me powerful new insights. Tofte Manor’s soul, Elaine and Karyn’s thoughtful, meticulous and caring hosting create a precious space for self reflection in the company of inspiring people”
Edith Coron EOC Intercultural Ltd
“I wanted to be able to come to the retreat to recover when the stress in my life was over, but it was not over. Taking the time out to come anyway was such a gift! The retreat provided space for me to just be and to realise the benefit of that. I learned the value of giving that gift to myself and I intend to make that part of my self-support system. Thank you.”
Evelyn Thomas Lizard Coaching Supervision
“Just as enjoyable and thought provoking the second time round. I left feeling energised and refreshed - my mind felt like it had been on a two week retreat. Thank you”
Gail LIneham Aspire People Development
‘I experienced a rich, inspirational time in a sanctuary set amidst a beautiful, snowy landscape which offered a journey into a more peaceful, compassionate world. The learning was profound and we had plenty of time to reflect, connect with nature and our creative side, all in the company of warm hearted, friendly people and wise and caring leaders’.
Rosemary Sandham, Counselling, Coaching and Mindfulness
Testimonials from Leaders and Clinicians participating in the Guys and St Thomas’s Hospital Peer Supervision Programme:
“Gratitude for the teaching, experience, gifts, journals, books, …… An undeserved favour.. rare to receive this at work. Thank you for what you have to bring in heart, skill and insight…….”
“Supervision is an element of humanity that has been absent from my life. I feel valued in the sessions for WHO I am. I can bring myself safely into the work we are doing. This is bringing courage and confidence into not only WHO I am as a coach but also as a leader”
“It is absolutely brilliant in every way – especially when I listen to the issues that other people bring, learn from their thoughts and other people’s ideas and observations. I understand what you mean now when you say “when one person works, everyone works!”
“The process has been life changing for me already.. giving me the tools and resources to explore many difficult questions…… It is not just about coaching supervision – it is so much bigger and more powerful. Thank you from the whole of my heart”